Dear Royal Friends,
If you are a royal friend of mine, which you are if you’re reading this, you are someone who wants to live a big, bold princess-worthy life. But sometimes it’s really hard to know what your big, bold, princess-worth life is. And sometimes even if you do know, you’ve either missed the boat, or you never had a snowball’s chance in Hades from achieving it. And sometimes it’s just too mind-boggling to think about it. Because it’s scary. Maybe you’ll end up looking down a long empty hallway of locked doors, and everybody’s gone home.
Say you dreamed of becoming an internationally famous NBA basketball star, but there’s one “tiny” problem. You’re five foot one in fishnet stockings.
Plus, they don’t have a girl’s locker room. Plus, you’ve started getting magazines from AARP. You smirk at yourself and your dim, lofty dreams, and in your best smirk voice, you smirk, “You haven’t missed the boat — you’ve missed the ark. Have a nice life, suck-ah! Oh, and by the way, I’ll smirk if I want to.”
Sometimes, however, it’s not our height, age or sex that’s getting in the way of our big, bold, princess-worthy life. Sometimes it’s us. Because we refuse to recalibrate our original dreams to make them fit our authentic, valuable, worthy life that we actually live now that we’ve carved out with people whom we love and who love us. Tradable for nothing. Because it’s worth everything.
Guess what? Good news! There’s an alternative dream coming to you that fits your authentic life. Maybe it’s not a perfect dream, but it’s pretay, pratay good. Entertain this possibility: If you let yourself flow where this new dream takes you, you might find you get some place you never even old-dreamed…and that your life looks better and it’s more meaningful than it would have been had you pursued your original dream!
So what now? What happens if we just haven’t ventured out past our Comfort Zone, because we haven’t dared to put thought rays in that direction for a very long time. My royal friends. I’m here to tell you, don’t be afraid. There’s a safe place somewhere between Out-On-A-Limb-Throwing-It-All-Away v. Don’t-Do-A-Darn-Thing-About-An-Old-Dream.
Here’s a little trick I picked up from the Royal House of Haplessburger. Which is not, by the way, related to a royally hapless burger, which, by the way, as a vegan, I don’t “relish” the thought. Ask yourself:
WHAT WOULD YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE IF YOU KNEW YOU COULD NOT FAIL?
This question is worth more than at least one big diamond in my tiara and a small sapphire. Maybe throw in a big fat emerald for good luck. This question will radically bust through the gray matter membrane in your tiara-topped skull to get it jiggling in the right direction. Once you answer the question, don’t YOU be the one to stand in your way. Don’t YOU be your own worst frenemy.
You see, there is no failing. There is just doing. Just adventure. Just a journey. Just a big fat learning curve. Just a rich and fabulous life on new and endearing and energized terms. You see, half way between wanting to be an NBA star and sitting on the palace stoop with a bag of Veuve Cliquot and a tin pan (hey, it’s a living), there’s something out there for you that you will still LOVE to do, and feel fulfillment in doing, if you would just slap some street cred in the direction of your inner goddess and less credence to your inner critic. It’s a new look. Only on the inside.
Here’s the key to the palace: Don’t trap yourself into thinking you have to change jobs, leave your family, quit your life, fill in the blanks. There’s a way to pursue your old dream in some form if you will just apply some creative thinking. Here’s a bonus key to the palace: Throw away your all or nothing mentality. That is one of the biggest moat traps you can fall into. There are some real crocodiles waiting there to thwart your big, bold, princess-worthy life.
So you. You with the fishnets and the hearing aids. Yeah you. Go ahead. Organize a basketball team in your area. Maybe it becomes recognized state wide and beyond. You start raising some serious funds for a really BIG cause. You blog about it. Others blog about it. I’m already hearing some serious buzz…ET calls you. Hooray! You’re a Princess Hero Basketball Super Star! You’ve even got your own private locker room!
You can do it my royal friends….I bid you good luck! Get out there and live your big, bold princess-worthy lives!
bisous et tra la la,
Princess Diane Von Brainisfried