Change your words – Cheer up your life!

Dearest Royal Friends,  

What a glorious time of year it is! Full of glad tidings and good cheer…except when it isn’t. The holiday season arrives and life continues, as do our worries and cares.  The nanny’s at war with her assistant for smuggling in commercial baby food. The chauffeur defected to Uber.  Tiffany’s discontinued your great-great grand mummy’s silver pattern. And “Tommy” the rescue guinea pig you let your little Princess bring home turns out to be Tonya, and she’s pregnant! 

Problems, problems, problems!

What good is it to be bombarded with salutations of good cheer, glad tidings and all that other stuff if it makes us feel like crap when we’re not in a matching mood?  But….why are we not in a matching mood? Half the time it’s because of our own stinkin’ thinkin’.  

Here’s a quick tip to put CHEER back into your life. Become a word chiropractor and make an attitude adjustment.   

Here’s how: The next time you call something a “problem,” call it a “challenge” instead!

I discovered this trick when, as a corporate lawyer, my boss’s boss’s boss asked me to work on a knotty legal issue about which I was absolutely clueless. I started to panic.  I tried and tried to figure it out but nothing was sparking. I knew I couldn’t  give the project back and say, “Sorry dude, this one’s over my head.  And by the way, could I have a raise?” 

Then I had an epiphany! I think I pulled it right out of my ass, because I tell you, I have no idea how this mental game-changer came to me.  I told myself not to use the word “problem” but instead, recast the situation as a “challenge.” That seemingly itty bitty word adjustment practically blew the tiara right off my head. I actually felt a physical change. I felt lighter, as if I had just eaten a bag of feathers. Ptooey! Shortly thereafter,  I figured out a solution to the assignment. Whew!  About that raise, please!

What happened? In my studies and training as a positive psychology life coach, I learned that I had instinctively found a way to put myself in a  positive mindset by what is called “reframing” the situation, which made my mind more resilient and more productive. Who knew!

I encourage you to become a word chiropractor and make an attitude adjustment with your words. Train yourself to use the word “challenge” instead of “problem.”   So, when Tommy turns out to be Tonya, it’s just another day in the funhouse!  Cheers!!!!



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Dear Royal Friends,                                                         Did you know you are related to royalty?  Yes it’s true! You may have seen me advocate this principle before, but it’s so important, I want to make sure my new royal friends receive this information and my long-standing fans don’t forget. 

According to my theory,”The Sixth Degree Princess,illustrated below beautifully by my son, Prince Max, and recently proven at the Royal Academy of Brainiacs and Quacks, one way or another we’re all descended from a royal bloodline.  Right side or left, you know who you are. 


Why is this theory so important? There’s a magical transformation that takes place when you realize you’re a real princess, as authentic as the kind who wears  a diamond encrusted tiara or sleeps on a mile-high mattress with a little pea. (That’s spelled correctly.) The kind who knows Compassion and Kindness are her middle names. Mine is also Frances. The kind who’s proactively pursuing her bold destiny and carrying out her royal duty to use her gifts and talents to make the world a better place. The kind who knows the power of a smile to brighten the world and gladden a stranger’s heart.

When a person understands that there really is a tiara in her closet, and that her royal roots are not something she acquired at her hair dresser’s, she holds her head higher and walks more assuredly as she moves toward manifesting her destiny.  She awakens to the power of her birthright that is bound up in her sacred duty to explore, unearth and utilize her special gifts and talents to help make her kingdom a more wonderful place in her own, uniquely fabulous way.

So like I’m always hocking you, “Put a tiara in your closet!” Go out there and be the bold and beautiful princess you are!

I’d love to hear what putting a tiara in your closet means to you!  Leave your comments below, princess!




 “Live your royally happy life!™”



Dear Royal Friends~

I’m back from the phenomenal World Happiness Summit in Miami. Woohoo WOHASU!

As promised I’m excited to share my 3 TOP TRANSFORMATIONAL HAPPINESS  takeaways from the WOHASU conference on happiness, where I was honored to be a facilitator.  Here they are, in random order:

#1 Happiness starts with a smile                                      Profound in its simplicity and power. Who knew you can start seeding a world with less misery and more happiness by smiling more!  You can! Your very presence can, more than words, bring a change in vibration, the way you can feel the vibration shift all of a sudden when a baby or a puppy enters the scene. You must be the change you want to see in the world. Happiness starts with a smile!  Serve with your smile! – Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

#2 Don’t pursue happiness directly – the happiness paradox – Tal Ben-Shahar                                                Just like you can’t look directly into the sun, you don’t want to directly pursue happiness, as there’s a happiness paradox; people who pursue happiness are often more depressed! The solution?  Focus on wholeness, which is   Shahar’s definition of happiness.  How to attain wholeness? Focus on  these categories: spiritual, physical, Intellectual, relational, and emotional, otherwise known as S.P.I.R.E.

#3 Joy can be experienced even when life isn’t pleasurable – Shawn Achor                                            Happiness is “the joy you feel moving toward your potential,” so you don’t have to be all ships & giggles to be happy.  By way of example, Achor told how a marine carrying a heavy backpack slithering through the mud on a military exercise described himself as happy because he felt he was upholding the safety of the United States.  Achor states, “Our goal is joy and meaning in our life and how we can help other people.” Thus, while pursuing meaning and helping others, we can experience joy even when life kinda sucks. Awesome!

I hope you enjoyed these key happiness takeaways! If you did, keep your eyes peeled because I’m putting together a FREE DOWNLOADABLE REPORT with more KEY HAPPINESS TIPS put forward by the leaders at WOHASU.

There’s also a spoiler alert coming soon, but I’m not going to spoil the spoiler just yet. Maybe next post! 



 “Live your royally happy life!™”

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